You’re getting married! I can imagine how excited you must be as your big day draws near. I also can imagine the amount of fights that you’ll be having as a result to the impending deadlines and the anxiety. You could both be nervous wrecks and agreeing with each other seems impossible. You wish to change him, to force him to agree with you, but to no avail. Because marriage shouldn’t be about changing each other; it’s about accepting each other truly and whole-heartedly. By now, I imagine, you and your husband to be have been together long enough to know that you are not perfect. But let me tell you something - that doesn’t mean that you cannot have a truly perfect marriage! He’s not perfect, but you aren’t either. And while the two of you will never be perfect, you can be perfect for each other.
So, as your big day draws near, remember to chillax - together or alone - because maybe all you need is some time away from the stresses of wedding planning, to realize that you are marrying each other simply because at one point in time (probably before any of this began), you knew that you are perfect for each other.
To close, let me share with you some words of wisdom from the great Bob Marley: “He’s not perfect. You aren’t either, and the two of you will never be perfect. But if he can make you laugh at least once, cause you to think twice, and if he admits to being human and making mistakes, hold onto him and give him the most you can. He isn’t going to quote poetry, he’s not thinking about you every moment, but he will give you a part of him that he knows you could break. Don’t hurt him. Don’t change him. And don’t expect more than he can give. Don’t analyze. Smile when he makes you happy, yell when he makes you mad, and miss him when he’s not there. Love hard when there is love to be had, because perfect guys don’t exist, but there’s always one guy that is perfect for you.”