The start of any relationship, engagement, or marriage must be a bed of roses. However as time flies, you will see that the roses have thorns after all. A lot of couples end their relationships in messy break-ups even divorces, resulting in heart breaks and emotional loss. Anything, and I mean anything, can happen in a relationship. Yet it's never a question of quitting when the storm comes, but compromising and finding a solution. If you're sure that he or she is the one from God for you, you won't easily give up when faced with turmoils. So what does it take for a relationship to last? A long lasting relationship requires effort and the key to make it work, is unconditional love.
Unconditional love is more than just a temporary feeling, but an action and commitment. Unconditional love is more complicated than simply loving your partner “no matter what.” Unconditional love requires stepping back and seeing the bigger picture of your partnership and how to maintain the health of the relationship so that love can continue to thrive and grow. The first step toward loving your partner unconditionally is learning to love yourself unconditionally. It requires understanding and communicating your own boundaries and limits, yet being flexible enough to adapt and compromise when possible.
Recognize that love is a choice and decide to act in love no matter what your current feelings or circumstances. Always fight negativity with kindness. Avoid the dangerous habits of criticizing and condemning your spouse. Don't fight with your spouse just to prove that you're right. Realize that it's not worth it to win an argument just for the sake of winning, because by doing so you lose out on your relationship. Strive to look at a problem or conflict from your spouse's perspective. Change yourself, not your spouse. Realize that you can only take responsibility for your own attitudes and actions. Stop wasting time and energy trying to change your spouse, and focus on yourself instead. Know that by changing yourself, you'll change the dynamic of your relationship.
Don't compare your relationship to that of someone else. Understand that God has made you and spouse unique individuals, and that He has unique purposes for your marriage. Make a regular habit of counting your blessings and thanking God for what you do have so you can break free of envy. Seek to serve instead of being served. Rather than asking, "What can my spouse do for me?" ask, "What can I do for my spouse?" Don't keep score. Avoid keeping a record of wrongs to use against your spouse. Instead, be willing to forgive your spouse every time he or she does or says something hurtful. And most of all, it requires a daily mutual commitment to maintaining the health of the relationship and nurturing the bonds of love that brought you together in the first place.
No matter what happens, choose to love.