The Waiting Period

Niko & Febby by Dre | Written by Maya

We’re nearing the end of the first month this year, but I hope it isn’t too late to say wish you a Happy New Year. Hope your year is going swell! So, I’m here filling in for Dre as he’s still enjoying the start of the year (thanks for sharing your space with me, Dre!) and I thought of sharing with you a little musing about “The Waiting Period”. If you think about it, we’re always waiting for something, aren’t we? We stand at the traffic light waiting for the light to turn green. We stand at public toilets waiting for our turn to you know… do our business. We sit at restaurants waiting for our food to arrive. When we think about it, we actually spend a good portion of our lives waiting for something. Those are the small, ordinary things that we’re so used to waiting for, we don’t even mind waiting anymore. But what about the big things? The big promotion? The big breakthrough? And my all time favorite, the long wait for that one special person to come into your life and sweep you off your feet.  Romance is quite possibly the one thing we really mind waiting for. Especially when we’ve waited not for mere minutes or hours, but for days, maybe months, even years for that one special person to come along. We’ve waited so long we’ve almost given up hope and we begin to prepare our hearts for disappointments. “Those fairytale happy-endings were never for me, anyway!” we’d tell ourselves. We’d begin to lament our sad, sad fate and on bad days, we’d even curse it. We try to convince ourselves that we’re wasting our time and try to move on, but find that the dream of finding “the one” keep on resurfacing and it brings us back to what seems like a never-ending waiting period.  Waiting is always hard. Especially when it’s long. It can get tiring and boring and it can bring you down pretty fast. But let me ask you something: what do you do when you’re waiting in the traffic or in the toilet or at the restaurant? You’d probably chat with whoever you’re with or maybe check out your phone (although I sincerely hope that you aren’t doing this when you’re driving!). You’ll connect with whoever you’re with or if you’re alone, you’ll scroll through your social media feed or maybe chat with someone on an app, or maybe you’ll watch your surrounding. You find something to do and you certainly don’t start feeling sorry for yourself just because you have to wait. What you do in the waiting period matters. Your attitude towards your waiting period matters. You aren’t waiting for just anyone; you are waiting for the one! As you wait for that one special person to come into your life, move your focus from being a sad person in waiting into being someone awesome who is absolutely worth waiting for. Meet new people, make new friends, create healthy relationships. Enhance yourself. Discover new things and work on your personal growth. Don’t waste the time you have on meaningless things. Instead, use it wisely, as the chance to get to love yourself and to know exactly what you’re looking for. You know what they say, true love will always find a way. And that one special person will make his way to you when you’re ready and when God says “it’s time”. In the meantime, find things to make your waiting period memorable. And we’ll be praying that this year will be your best year yet. 
 Love, Maya