Good will always triumph
Caitlyn Baby Portraits by Ave | Written by Maya
Sometimes I think we got Disney fairy tales all wrong.
As a Mom, I’ve had my share of thinking of not exposing my daughter to fairy tales. Maybe it’s because I grew up with it - I dreamt of being swept off my feet by a Prince Charming and being rescued by a fairy Godmother every time I am treated unfairly; I woke up and realized that life is actually anything but a Cinderella story. Yes. Disappointment could very well be the motivation behind shielding my daughter from the overly optimistic fantasies involving magical (read: instant) beauty, glittering balls, and shiny glass slippers. “The zero-to-hero path is tough… especially for women,” I say. “We need to teach our daughters to worry less about fitting into glass slippers and more about shattering glass ceilings!” It’s all about women power. Who needs handsome rich men to rescue us from our pathetic lives? Wait, who even said that our lives is pathetic to begin with? No one! We are good, just as we are. We fight for ourselves! We create our own destiny! Yada yada yada.
Times have changed and mothers my age (let’s not reveal any more than we have to over here) think that it’s more important to equip them with confidence and to empower them with the belief that they can be anything they want to be instead of filling their heads with dreams of romantic fantasies. And they are right! Being comfortable in your own skin and having the confidence to find your place in the world or even to create the world you want for yourself is exactly what we need to be teaching our daughters.
However, if we looked past the “women need to be rescued” idea that Disney fairy tales offers, we will find a lesson on life and on people. Life is composed of lights and shadows, of good and evil. We would be lying and doing our children a disservice by shielding them from reality. Most things are good and they are the strongest things. And that’s what fairytales should be teaching our daughters - that there is kindness in the world and that good will always triumph over evil.
The way I see it, fairy tales contain a little portion of reality. It all depends on which ones you focus on and which ones you are leading your daughter to believe. So yeah. I let my daughter watch her fairytales. But every one of it always includes a follow-up talk and discussion over it to keep reality in check. Good will always triumph over evil.