Grateful

Benz & Janet by Jan

Can you mention what’s on your gratitude list? A good career, good health, a new car, the birth of a new baby? But, what about your marriage? Are you really thankful for your spouse? For some, the reply will come with a quick nod of affirmation, but for others, the answer is become more difficult. Really difficult. As marriages move past the honeymoon stage, couples go from appreciating and loving every little detail about each other to taking each other for granted. The truth is every good stuff always there, but sometimes all you see are the problems. The blur of marriage life and all of its responsibilities can often make it difficult for you to see the good in your spouse. 

When things getting harder, when the situation seems complicated, when life gets busy, when everything’s changing, no matter what is going on in your marriage life, do not forget to take a step back from it all and reflect on the things that really matter. Take a breath and choose to focus on the goodness of your spouse. Start to write a gratitude list about your spouse. Stop spending your time focusing on their weaknesses, bad habits, mistakes, or flaws and start being grateful. Because there is always, always, always something to be grateful. 

Be grateful if your spouse chooses to trust you in spite of all your faults. Be grateful how they support you to reach your goals, how they’re always there for you, how they still show their kindness even if when you are cranky and annoying. Be grateful they still forgive you all over again. Be grateful when they ask you where you’re going because they care. What a blessing it is to know there's someone who is concerned about your safety. See? When you start being grateful, everything looks easier, right? Stop focusing on the negative.

Being grateful changes everything. Words are powerful tools. They can create, or they can destroy. They can build up, or they can tear down. If you start speaking well of your spouse, you start believing what you say. Gratitude turns what we have into enough, and more. It turns denial, into acceptance, chaos into order and confusion into clarity. It makes sense of our past, brings peace for today and creates a vision for tomorrow. Being thankful changes your attitude and your heart to see every condition, to have a right response and to have a better day. 


Love,

Jan