Let me tell you a little something about guys: when we like something we focus. I’m not just talking about when it comes to liking a girl and focus on summing up a strategy to get her to like us back. I’m talking hobbies. Some of us like (what girls would find weird, such as) toys and video games and others like golf or football or basketball or other kinds of sports (which girls find equally weird). But I think what we guys have in common is that when we like something, we “invest” our time (and expenses) into that hobby. (But look, when we like a girl, we do the same thing… right?) Our hobbies are like an oasis away from all the stresses of daily life. They’re like a distraction that we willingly go to after a hard day’s work. It’s a place (sort of) where we unwind and gain new perspectives and challenge ourselves to be better. We find a hobby and then we focus.
Most of us find spouses who are compatible with us in every way – except in this aspect. Most guys end up with girls who don’t share their love for their hobbies. We don’t expect our spouses to get all excited about what excites us (if they do, it’s great… if not, it’s fine too). But what we do expect, maybe, is just a little support! Let us have that weekly game of golf where we find serenity of being in the course and the satisfaction of executing a difficult shot, let us have that few hours after work to work on relationship with our Playstation, or to hang out with other guys who do share our focus on the same hobby. When our spouses give us this support, we know that we are loved. And you know what happens when guys feel loved? They love back, in multiples!
Anyway, that’s my take on love this morning. I guess I just thought of that when I saw this picture of Ariel and Sylvia. Ariel clearly loves golf. And even though, Sylvia doesn’t share that love, she lets him have his game. She even bought him those uniquely cute covers for his clubs. To support doesn’t only mean to take part in something you like or agree with. Sometimes to support means to let another do what makes them happy, to support his focus, knowing that they’ll be a better person because of it, even if you don’t share the excitement.
Have a great end to the week!
Paulus
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